Choosing to change often brings disappointment and resistance. At times, it can feel as if the world is not only indifferent to your efforts but actively pushing back. That’s because real change moves against the grain. It disrupts routines, challenges old patterns, and forces us to confront habits that no longer serve us. Change is work — intentional, uncomfortable work. It’s like tending a garden. Letting a yard go wild is effortless; weeds grow on their own, and neglect piles up quickly....

The man at the top of the mountain didn’t just fall there. In today’s world of instant gratification, we often forget how slowly a garden grows, how much educa tion some careers require, or how many years it takes to earn a black belt in jujitsu. The same is true when we work to improve our lives, hearts, and minds. At first, it’s easy to feel disappointed when we don’t see immediate results from changes like choosing different friends, eating healthier, or embracing sobriety. Patience is...

There is strength in moving on. Moving on is not letting things go, it’s not letting others off the hook. Moving on is the same as being in a tight submissive hold and you decide that this will not be how you end. Moving on is slipping out of a submissive hold. It’s getting out of and moving away from the thing that may destroy you.