Why Is Change So Difficult?

Choosing to change often brings disappointment and resistance. At times, it can feel as if the world is not only indifferent to your efforts but actively pushing back. That’s because real change moves against the grain. It disrupts routines, challenges old patterns, and forces us to confront habits that no longer serve us.

Change is work — intentional, uncomfortable work. It’s like tending a garden. Letting a yard go wild is effortless; weeds grow on their own, and neglect piles up quickly. But cultivating a garden requires attention, experimentation, patience, and a willingness to fail and try again. Only then does it flourish.

Life changes can also resemble raising a dog. Doing the bare minimum might keep things going for a while, but eventually problems surface. Without consistent effort, you end up with a destructive animal that becomes a liability. But when you invest time, training, and care, you gain a loyal companion — sometimes more reliable than the people around you.

So yes, change is hard. It can feel lonely, even spiritual at times, as if God has gone silent while you wander through a desert. But it’s in that quiet space that determination forms. It’s where you discover what you truly want and what you’re willing to build.

Give yourself time to adjust. Give the world time to recognize and adapt to the new path you’re choosing. It took years to reach the point where change became necessary; it won’t transform overnight. But with steady effort, the landscape around you begins to shift.